Growing by 1

This letter to you is one I've tried to imagine myself writing for months now. But no matter how many times I've run it through my head it never seems to convey my true feelings....so I guess I'll just say it, mom and Tim got engaged on Saturday! It was the news I've waited to hear and also the news that officially brings a new chapter to our family's life. Which goes without saying, brings mixed feelings! I'm absolutely thrilled for both of them and I couldn't have picked a better man for mom if I tried! Bryan made the comment that he's so glad it's Tim because he can't think of anyone else he would trust with mom's heart or to be a great father to the little ones you left behind. And I echo his feelings! I don't think I could "let mom go" to anyone with out any reservations unless it was Tim. I trust him completely and I know he will treat the kids as his own and cherish mom as she so deserves. Colin said upon hearing the news that grandma was going to marry Tim said, "but grandma is married to grandpa...she can't marry Tim" I told him that once (you) passed away you were no longer married to grammie, to which he replied, "oh well that stinks." He is very excited though and talked Tim's ear off for about an hour. Cecily just adores him and follows him around gently patting him whenever she can. A few weeks ago she had a grammie sleepover and when she woke up she said, "where did Tim sleep?" Mom laughed and said at his house. I think she was a little sad he wasn't there.
    And just like that a new beginning is upon us. If someone would have told me 5 years ago that I would lose my dad to cancer, my sister and mom would be engaged at the same time, and my kids would call someone other than you grandpa I would have said they were crazy. Yet here we are! God works in amazing ways and this couldn't have been orchestrated any more beautiful! He truly gives beauty for ashes, strength for fear, gladness for mourning, and peace for despair.
  Pretty much every person I've told (all of 3 people so far haha) including Bryan asked how I felt about it. I find that a funny and loaded question. Obviously the fact that my mom is marrying someone else because my dad died is not going to be a "YAY!!!" feeling but that does not mean it takes away from my incredible excitement for mom and Tim! Mom went through hell and back after losing you and if anyone deserves a second chance at finding love again, it is her! I can see in her eyes the same twinkle I saw when she looked at you...for that I am incredibly thankful! Weston adores him and mom even found a card he wrote that said his favorite things were something along the lines of  "the rock shop, food, hiking, basketball, and Tim". He so desperately needed a daddy and I can't thank Him enough that he didn't make Weston wait years and years to have that "position" filled. Tim has brought back what our family was missing. So my feelings are pure joy on this new chapter and reflections as I look back on the old one{s}. It helps that he also got all of us girls pearl earrings as our "proposal" gift. The guys however felt a little left out and teased Tim he should have gotten them all Tablets. hehe
   Well the story of their engagement is kind of funny because it didn't really go exactly how Tim had planned but the day was a rocky one so he had to improvise. It started for mom at 3am with her going out to do irrigation and discovering that her water heater was leaking all over. So instead of going to the air show like planned Tim took Weston and mom stayed back to wait for the guy to come fix it. She threw some dinner in the crock pot and waited until they got home. Apparently Tim wanted all of us there but I had already told mom I was cooking for us so I didn't take the invite for dinner (oops) and then Weston got invited over for a sleepover. Tim tried to tell mom he wanted the kids all at dinner without mom getting suspicious but it wasn't easy. He did manage to get all of the "regulars" there but before he could pop the question with all of them at the table they got up and went to finish painting Dorothy's room. So he decided to just press on (poor guy!) and told mom he had gotten her something on Amazon. He handed her a box and inside was a travel guide for Scotland. They have been talking about going there someday so it wasn't a surprise to mom. Little did she know what was inside of it...she started flipping through not even realizing the middle had been cut out and the ring was inside. Before she knew it Tim was on one knee and asked the girls to come back in the room. So he asked her to marry him and of course you can assume mom said yes!! I got a text with a picture of a ring and I was so excited I shrieked! We went over there and enjoyed some champagne with them and watched what else but Scooby Doo per Colin's request. It was a beautiful night and even though it didn't go exactly to Tim's plan...he is a trooper and just went with it! So now he is in for the long haul and just like that he has an insta-family!!!
 Your Favorite Second Born,
Carley

 Tim's dad is so faithful to write mommy, here is one of his letters...she enjoys reading them with her morning tea!

 On a hike

 Tim braved his first trip to NM to visit mommy's parents two weeks ago...he asked grandpa for permission to marry mommy and grandma was able to keep it a secret!!

 My beautiful earrings!